In a relationship with you???

   

So Cinderella met the prince and they danced all night long, fell in love and the very next day they got married and lived happily ever after. The end. This is the story we’ve heard all our lives. Boys and girls alike although due to the existence of soap operas the ladies might have had a considerably greater exposure to this idea. What idea you may ask? That one day Mr/Miss Right a.k.a ‘The one’ will suddenly appear at your doorstep and sweep you completely off your feet. This person will be unlike every other ex you’ve ever had and they’ll treat you exactly how you DESERVE to be treated. Emphasis on the word ‘deserve’. But have you ever asked yourself whether you deserve this magically wonderful person who is apparently perfect in every way imaginable? The question I’m asking is would you date you?

   

    We always have this ideology in our minds of how the person we end up with should be but we seldom ever ask ourselves whether we are the kind of person somebody else would want to end up with.  I honestly think it would be kind of a raw deal for someone so ‘right’ to end up with someone so ‘wrong’. Don’t bite my head off yet because I’m not saying that everyone who’s looking for the right person to date is a completely inadequate as a person. No I’m trying to say that charity begins at home. Maybe instead of looking for the one we should try being the one.

  We’ve all heard the phrase ‘unlike poles attract’ used severally in terms of relationships. But sadly that isn’t the case in life. Reality is that ‘LIKE ATTRACTS LIKE’. Don’t believe me? Just look at your friends and tell me that you guys aren’t freakishly similar in a lot of aspects. Same thing with relationships. If you have a certain set of principles and goals in your life chances are that you’ll end up with somebody’s who’s in the same boat. So back to my original question: would you date you?

   If the answer is yes, then good for you. But if it’s no, then maybe you need to go through a time of self-reflection and change to become the type of person you’d want to be with. Don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying you should be perfect or anything since that’s impossible. We are human and imperfection is part of the package. I’m just saying that before you put up standards for somebody else, make sure you’ve already met those standards yourself. Truth is, fairy tales don’t come true. So maybe it’s better to try and BE ‘the one’ for a change. Look at it this way, you’ve got nothing to lose by trying, but if you don’t, then you’ll always wonder.......