Maybe you haven't met the right guy yet because he's not ready to meet you



  It’s not you, it’s him. This one is for the girls. All those girls who've been moaning to their friends about how there is a severe lack of datable guys in our generation. All those girls who are considering giving up on their standards so they can settle. All those girls who are feeling daily pressure to date someone, anyone...especially when Monday rolls around and their timelines blow-up with #MCM posts. I want you take a break from your wallowing and Hollywood rom-com binging and think about this for a moment: What if you haven’t met him because he’s not ready for you yet?

   I’m a strong proponent of being the one. As in, becoming the kind of person you would want to date. You can read about that in a previous post. I’m also a strong proponent of dating God’s way and that His timing is best. I know we all acknowledge that there are things in our lives we may need to grow out of or sift through because at the back of our minds we know that they’re just not right. And I think that that’s a good thing because it means you have the ability to see yourself clearly. I think we all know what it’s like to deal with someone who is blind to their own faults.

   So think about that hamartia you’re trying to get over, and then imagine that somewhere your future someone is trying to get over a similar or even opposite flaw. Think about all the things you’d list as deal-breakers and then consider the fact that we’re all human. So it’s possible that you’re future mate may have had one/several of your deal-breakers as part of his past, but with time got over it and put it firmly behind him. Maybe that’s what he’s doing right now, walking-away from habits and norms that just aren’t right. Remember, that good men are made and not born.

   So in the meantime, give God a break and trust that He has it all in hand. Pick up a hobby or a passion and just live your life. Learn how to eat healthy / exercise / play an instrument / grow in your walk with God / something. The whole Rapunzel-waiting-in-her-tower thing just won’t cut it. Keep working on you as your guy keeps working on himself and when you’re both ready, you’ll find each other. The reverse is true for the guys as well.


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